by Bud Lambert
Boss: A person who has authority over others; a person who controls others; a person who orders others around.
One of the reasons for the break down of the family and problems resulting in the church today is that women are forsaking the role which God ordained them to when He established the home and the church. God is clear about the role he desires for women.
It is a sin for a woman to be bossy in the home. Men who have a bossy wife are not qualified to serve as an elder ( 1 Timothy 3:4) nor as a deacon ( 1 Timothy 3:11, 12). Women who are not "obedient to their own husbands" blaspheme the word of God ( Titus 2:5). To God a beautiful woman is one who is in subjection to her husband and who adorns herself in a meek and quiet spirit: "...which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazemenr a Peter 3:4-6). "Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything" (Eph. 5:24; cf. Gen. 3:16).
It is a sin for a woman to be bossy in the church. "But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God" ( 1 Corinthians 11 :3). "Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve" ( 1 Timothy 2:11-13). "Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law. And if they will learn anything, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church" ( 1 Corinthians 14:34, 35).
God is cl,ear about His expectations for the role of women in the home and in the church. Is your family growing toward God's expectations in this matter?