Can you imagine going to a wedding with the bride and groom greeting everyone at a reception only to be notably excused to enter into a side room for a long while to consummate their marriage? After the consummation the couple would return to the feast for several days to celebrate the virginity of the bride, as she entered into marriage. Read Deuteronomy 22:13-21 noticing the actions of the parents as they would actually display the bed coverings to prove the purity of their daughter or daughter-in-law.
As foreign as this tradition is to our culture with worldly parents actually buying contraceptives and hotel rooms for their teens, it should make Christians ask themselves why aren't we talking more? If the world tells their children lies about sexuality, why don't we talk more about the truth?
The book of Song of Solomon speaks openly of two falling in love, but not "arousing or awakening love until it pleases" 3:5. The two are greatly attracted to each other, spend time with each other, and eventually commit to marriage. In chapter 4 the inspired pen doesn't skip over the honeymoon as if it was "dirty" but describes the beauty and purity of this "awakened" (ch 4:16) love!
Parents, how much concern do you have as to whether or not your children are virgins when entering into marriage? God is very concerned! How much have you related to them in conversation and study of the scriptures? God has said much! Have your children committed to purity? This is a part of genuine commitment to God!
If your children's virginity was to be announced or denied by their "in-laws" as a part of the public wedding events, would you give better instructions to your children? Do you allow and even aid your children in making "provision for the flesh?" See Romans 13:13-14. Are your children vessels of honor or dishonor? See I Thessalonians 4:3-8.
Using our bodies in His service must be a priority for every Christian! Think how differently the world would be if every person celebrated their honeymoon as a virgin! God's plan blesses lives, churches, and societies!